{"id":13975,"date":"2017-02-10T10:16:09","date_gmt":"2017-02-10T10:16:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nakedrecoveryonline.com\/?p=829"},"modified":"2021-12-22T17:15:34","modified_gmt":"2021-12-22T22:15:34","slug":"valentines-day-downer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/blog\/valentines-day-downer\/","title":{"rendered":"Valentines Day Downer?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Well stop it.<\/strong> It\u2019s just a game, and here\u2019s how to remember how to enjoy it. Feeling lonely and anxious starts a downward spiral unless you stop it. For those who hate feeling lonely, each rejection becomes a failure that they are single and they become driven anxiously to eliminate the issue. They all start to seem interrelated. People suffering from anxiety link these random events together and feel the weight of all of these issues all at once. It\u2019s like when you throw a stone in a pool of water and the ripples go out across the whole pool \u2013 anxious people allow the stones of life to disrupt their entire pool of equilibrium.<\/p>\n Wake up, and stop linking things up. The root of solving anxiety is being aware that you are needlessly, illogically linking all of these events together, and seeing them as part of a massive, interconnected task that seem impossible to overcome. The stone has nothing to do with the pool of equilibrium. Your daughter failing school or your date cancelling is not personal.<\/p>\n So here\u2019s your challenge \u2013 a powerful route to breaking this pattern and getting peace of mind once more;<\/p>\n It\u2019s a very effective exercise, and it might even just make you smile this Valentine\u2019s Day\u2026 With you in service check out our resources<\/a> or our Videos on Youtube<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Is Valentine’s getting you down? Well stop it. It\u2019s just a game, and here\u2019s how to remember how to enjoy it. Around this time of year being lonely drives some people into total anxiety about finding the one. The thing is, finding a life partner isn\u2019t about being all anxious and desperate. It\u2019s about being […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10547,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1030],"tags":[21,20,22,23,634],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13975"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13975"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13975\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17125,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13975\/revisions\/17125"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10547"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13975"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13975"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nakedrecovery.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13975"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nAround this time of year being lonely drives some people into total anxiety about finding the one<\/strong>. The thing is, finding a life partner isn\u2019t about being all anxious and desperate. It\u2019s about being chilled, and playing the game flat out with no attachment to the outcome.
\nBut people who hate being lonely and hating the process don\u2019t approach the dating game as a game. Especially around silly days of organized public affection like the 14th \u2013 when everyone else seems to be madly in love.<\/p>\nLonely and anxious<\/h3>\n
\nThe important thing to realize about anxiety is that we feel anxious when we make connections between unrelated events \u2013 that\u2019s the real driver to this spreading feeling.
\nWe had a bad date, someone didn\u2019t call back, our boss shouted at work, our daughter is failing school, traffic was bad, the next date cancelled, you reached out to someone on Facebook and they didn\u2019t answer you back and the TV blew up.<\/p>\nInterrelated<\/h3>\n
Stop linking things up<\/h3>\n
\nThe key is not to merge and bring things together and see everything as one big problem.<\/p>\nThings are not connected.<\/h4>\n
It just happened.<\/h4>\n
The 6 steps to release your anxiety:<\/h3>\n
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Go ahead, do it now!<\/h4>\n
\nAnd the last step, tell us what you think!<\/p>\n
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