A:<\/strong> Tough.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> No.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> I don\u2019t know!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n I\u2019m guessing these aren\u2019t the answers you were expecting right? So let me explain in more details\u2026<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Q1: What\u2019s it like to married to relationship counsellor?<\/strong><\/p>\n A: Tough.<\/strong><\/p>\n I say being married to a relationship counsellor is tough, because we place our relationship and our personal dynamic under the microscope more than most.<\/p>\n For us, marriage was not simply a letter we\u2019d sign and then forget. Assuming that our future would nothing but idyllic forever more. Far from it.<\/p>\n We always knew we\u2019d have to work at it. And sometimes that work is \u2018tough\u2019, challenging, and damn right annoying. It is however critical.<\/p>\n For us that commitment was about working through those tough times, staying committed to the relationship and dealing with any issues that will inevitable come along to the best of our ability, even if we don\u2019t feel like doing so in the midst of battle.<\/p>\n The answer is sensitivity.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Whats the difference between an average car driver, and world best F1 drivers?<\/p>\n The answer is sensitivity.<\/p>\n The average car driver may adjust their steering, acceleration, braking, and clutch control let\u2019s say five times a second. The F1 driver does it 1000 times a second.<\/p>\n Whilst the average car driver knows what gear they are in, if they are braking, accelerating etc. The F1 driver knows microscopic details about the behaviour of the car. They know if the tyres are under-inflated, if they have a flat-spot, if the vehicle is heavy (full of fuel) or light, if the car is over-steering, under-steering, if the brakes are warm, etc. etc. etc.<\/p>\n My point is the F1 driver makes 100 probably thousands more microscopic changes to how they drive the vehicle. The drive may appear silky-smooth from the outside, that\u2019s only achieved by all the microscopic adjustments taking place on the inside.<\/p>\n Well our relationship is like that.<\/p>\n We make changes all-the-time. Our relationship changes and evolves constantly. Rules that were right yesterday, may not be right tomorrow. If necessary we will re-evaluate, re-discuss and set new rules as we need to.<\/p>\n We don\u2019t get the luxury of walking over things because they aren\u2019t fun to discuss, or because I\/we would prefer to avoid a challenging conversation. We address them.<\/p>\n So yes it\u2019s tough. It\u2019s hard work \u2013 but I\u2019m so grateful to have the relationship I have with Adele if that\u2019s the fuel that makes this car run \u2013 then it\u2019s a small price to pay.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Q2: Do you have the perfect marriage?<\/strong><\/p>\n A: No.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m not sure there is anything that\u2019s perfect.<\/p>\n Even if we achieved a state of relationship perfection today, by tomorrow things have changed. The world is in constant flux, and so are we individually, and as a partnership.<\/p>\n I do what I can to provide and deliver what she needs<\/p><\/blockquote>\n The support and assets she needs from me may change, and visa-versa. And I do what I can to provide and deliver what she needs within my own abilities and capabilities.<\/p>\n Personally I\u2019ve given up trying to be an \u2018expert\u2019 at anything. If someone describes me as an expert of this or that, that nice to hear but that\u2019s for them to decide, not me. Instead I strive to be the best student I can be. To me that approach get\u2019s me closer to whatever an \u2018expert\u2019 really is, and keeps me learning, keeps me hungry, and keeps me growing.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Q3: Will your marriage last for ever?<\/strong><\/p>\n A: I don\u2019t know!<\/strong><\/p>\n Well who the hell does.<\/p>\n If you think you can say for absolute certainty that your marriage will last forever then I think you\u2019re living in dream land. Many a relationship has failed, despite the best efforts of the parties involved.<\/p>\n Hell, if for some reason I became an abusive horrible husband, quite frankly I hope Adele would ditch me (I have no plans to commit to that by the way), and I\u2019d deserve it.<\/p>\n People grow, people change<\/p><\/blockquote>\n People grow, people change. I remember very profoundly Adele telling me that she was committed to growth and change. At the time that was a very challenging statement to receive. To commit to someone having no idea of what that person would be like in the future wrestled with my logic for a while. Ultimately though I loved the honesty and truth of it.<\/p>\n I would however say that I am deeply committed to making this relationship last and survive any challenges that may come our way whatever they may be. I committed to that very seriously. That means I\u2019m bound by my commitment to work through any of the challenges that come our way.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n I\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s been of any value. If it is let me know, send me a PM. If you have any questions you can also get in touch, I\u2019ll assist and give you my perspective where I can.<\/p>\n Otherwise I\u2019ll leave the content delivery to \u2018my\u2019 expert, Adele.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hi I\u2019m Simon – better known for being the other half to Adele Theron- Although I work with Adele on the business-side of NakedRecoveryOnline and NakedDivorce (I also have no own businesses), I usually stay the hell out of delivering any content. 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Q2:<\/strong> Do you have the perfect marriage?<\/h3>\n
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Q3:<\/strong> Will your marriage last for ever?<\/h3>\n
Not your expected answers?<\/h3>\n
Was that of value?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nPS: The irony that if we did ever split up Adele would be ok again in 21 days. Whilst I\u2019d be left a mess probably not allowed to take her 21 Day Get Over Divorce course is not wasted on me.<\/h4>\n