Jennice Vilhauer, Ph.D.<\/a><\/p>\n\u201cIt\u2019s safer for the other partner to not be with the abuser while they\u2019re working on their own anger management type of issue.\u201d<\/p>\n
You Can\u2019t Agree on Core Issues<\/h2>\n
There are a couple of core aspects that you and your partner should agree on in order to move through life together successfully. One of the most common core issues that can break a couple apart if they\u2019re on different pages is having children. If one partner is desperate for children, while the other really doesn\u2019t want one, then this is often a reason to end the marriage.<\/p>\n
Other examples are religion, how to raise children, equality in the household, and much more.<\/p>\n
Core issues are often at the heart of someone\u2019s belief system, and if partners don\u2019t agree on something of this magnitude, the marriage will rarely work out.<\/p>\n
One Person Won\u2019t Work on the Marriage<\/h2>\n
It\u2019s no secret that every marriage will encounter a variety of challenges over the years, but it\u2019s how couples face these challenges that will determine whether the marriage will work or not.<\/p>\n
If you and your spouse have been going through a tough time, such as a lack of intimacy, poor communication, or high conflict, then it\u2019s essential that both of you are willing to acknowledge and work on these issues if you want to succeed. Unfortunately, one partner can\u2019t do all the work on their own, and they need the other person to come to the table in order to succeed.<\/p>\n
If your partner is failing to hold up their end of the bargain and is unwilling to work on the marriage, then it might be time to say goodbye. At the end of the day, everything from small daily conversations to big issues requires the participation of both of you. The dialogue around these things cannot happen if your partner is unwilling to take part in them.<\/p>\n
Broken Trust That\u2019s Irreparable<\/h2>\n
Trust is one of the most crucial aspects of any relationship, and it\u2019s the bedrock of a good marriage. Of course, infidelity is one of the most common ways that people destroy trust in a relationship. While some of the time it\u2019s not a deal breaker, in most relationships, cheating is non-negotiable.<\/p>\n
If you or your spouse have been unfaithful, but you have decided that it\u2019s worth staying in the relationship, then it\u2019s incredibly important that you are able to fully forgive and make peace with your partner and vice versa. If you or your partner are dredging up the issue every time there\u2019s an argument or fight, or if either of you is holding a grudge, then chances are that your marriage is not going to work in the long run.<\/p>\n
A Lack of Respect<\/h2>\n
There simply has to be mutual respect in a healthy marriage. Both partners must feel accepted and heard by the other. If one partner is feeling dismissed, unheard, or rejected, the marriage is no longer a safe and nurturing relationship to be in.<\/p>\n
When marriages reach this point, it often means that there is little civility and tons of attacking or defending from either side. The worst-case scenario is that this lack of respect actually turns into contempt.<\/p>\n
Contempt makes one partner feel superior to the other, and they might actually feel disgust towards their spouse. Contempt from either partner attacks the sense of self of the other, and this form of resentment often signals the end of a relationship, as it leaves no room for intimacy or connection.<\/p>\n
We Can Help You No Matter What Your Decision Is<\/h2>\n
At Naked Divorce and Naked Recovery, we believe that every marriage deserves a chance to be saved, but we also know that some divorces are also for the best. That\u2019s why I have created a series of different packages and programs for a variety of scenarios that will help you on your journey.<\/p>\n
Our divorce experts will do a professional Divorce Assessment and give you and your partner the clarity you need on one of the biggest decisions of your life. From this point forward, we either help you along your divorce journey to make it as smooth as possible, or we can help you reignite the flame in your marriage with our Spark Program. The Spark Program is an intensive form of \u2018relationship school\u2019 where you\u2019ll learn the formula of a successful marriage and I\u2019ll teach you to implement it into your own relationship.<\/p>\n
Get in touch with us<\/a> and we will be with you every step of the way.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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