Although we live in a much more sexually cognizant and accepting society than other generations, talking about sex can still be an awkward topic. In general, most people won\u2019t discuss what happens in bed with others, which can be understandable. However, many won\u2019t even discuss sex with their partners.<\/p>\n
Sex is a very intimate topic, and that\u2019s why many couples won\u2019t discuss the fact that they have very infrequent sex or that they have a sexless marriage. Sex generally slows down after two people have been together for some time, but it\u2019s an essential aspect of intimacy and connection in a relationship.<\/p>\n
So, why do people stop having sex? There are a multitude of reasons that sex begins to fizzle out in a relationship. Let\u2019s take a look at some of the most common reasons.<\/p>\n
The most common reason that couples stop having sex is simply because of long and tiring days at work or looking after the kids. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean your marriage is in huge danger. It\u2019s just that stress, anxiety and tiredness have eclipsed desire.<\/p>\n
The trap of the daily routine is bigger than many people think, especially if they are having sex repeatedly in the same way. People tend to follow the same script and no longer take the time to want to romance or please their partner in new ways, and sexual motivation starts to die a slow death.<\/p>\n
People who experience discomfort or any level of pain during sexual intercourse are not going to want to have it. This situation is more common than you might think. Women, in particular, are prone to painful sex, and they could be too embarrassed to talk to their partners about it. Women are especially prone to this after going through menopause, when their estrogen levels become low, and their body does not produce the same levels of lubrication.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s not to say men don\u2019t struggle with pain during sex, but the numbers are much lower. If painful sex is not addressed, it can have a huge impact on body image, mental health, and the relationship, which will lead to a decrease in sexual desire, too.<\/p>\n
The psychology behind sexual arousal can be complicated, and if one partner doesn\u2019t feel safe or like they can trust the other, then there could be a genuine lack of arousal. This could come down to being a survivor of, or witness to, sexual violence, or it could be trust issues from a previous relationship.<\/p>\n
The key to a good sex life is open communication. The ability to talk about the past any sexual anxieties, wants, or needs is vital for a healthy sexual relationship. If communication is severely breached and a partner doesn\u2019t feel that they can talk about past traumas or concerns, this is likely to present itself as a low sex drive.<\/p>\n
As with the point above, communication is the foundation of this common reason why people stop having sex. However, it has less to do with not communicating but rather the communication styles.<\/p>\n
Small, everyday problems are normal in a relationship, but if they aren\u2019t dealt with, they can very quickly develop into full-scale resentment and anger, which is commonly communicated through unproductive conflict. If you are unable to solve conflict in your relationship productively, then chances are it\u2019s going to start eating away at it, and the sexual desire will become eroded.<\/p>\n
Conflict resolution is one of the most essential aspects of having a healthy relationship and a healthy sex life.<\/p>\n
Other causes of low libido can be chronic disease, post-surgery recovery and mental health illnesses. For example, something like diabetes causes tiredness and other symptoms that can lead to a lower sex drive.<\/p>\n
Some surgeries can also result in side effects like erectile dysfunction or vaginal dryness. At the same time, mental health issues have a similar effect. Depression can completely diminish sex drive and affect a relationship in several simultaneous, damaging ways.<\/p>\n
Some prescription medications can have a huge impact on your sexual wellness. Some could impact your libido and reduce your sex drive dramatically, while others can have a more physical impact, causing erectile dysfunction and other sexual issues.<\/p>\n