Month: September 2016

Never say “Because I love you”…

Posted on September 4th, 2016

Why You Should Never, Ever Say: “I’m Doing This Because I Love You” When Ann was a teenager, her parents went through a terrible divorce. Her father had always been volatile, but when her mother finally told him they couldn’t stay living in the same house indefinitely after the split, he lost it. He drank […]

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Second marriage mistakes…

Posted on September 4th, 2016

Starting a Second Marriage? Don’t Assume You’ve Learned from Your Mistakes. No doubt you already know these depressing statistics: nearly half of all marriages in the US and the UK end in divorce. What you might not realise is that this number doesn’t decrease as we get older and wiser and (theoretically) better at figuring […]

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Later life divorce…

Posted on September 4th, 2016 Later life divorce…

Congratulations! You made it all the way through to retirement together. You survived all those early fights, the nappy duties, the teenager tantrums, the little jealousies and resentments, the financial strains, the never-ending couple conflicts, and now… Now you’ve decided enough is enough. You don’t want to grow old together, after all. You’re getting divorced. […]

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Compromising who you are?

Posted on September 4th, 2016

Midlife crisis alert! Relationships are about compromise. Right? I mean, we hear that a hundred times a day. It’s drilled into us non-stop. If you want to make your marriage work, you have to be willing to compromise. Compromise? But what does “compromise” actually mean? There’s a huge difference between accepting that you won’t always get your […]

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Are You a Therapy Junkie?

Posted on September 4th, 2016

Recently I had a client in her 60s (I’ll call her Tammy) who had spent 12 long years in therapy, trying to figure out what was wrong with her and searching for ways to improve. Tried everything Tammy had tried every self-help, positive thinking, mind-opening, behaviour-correcting course you can think of. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? Check! […]

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3 ways you’re dooming your relationship before it’s began

Posted on September 4th, 2016 Overcome divorce challenges

Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps. 1) You raise the wrong bars way too high. I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before at […]

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